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#1 by Yunxiaocuo , Thu Dec 03, 2015 9:33 pm

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In fact, what is social anxiety? It is simply caused by non-resourceful patterns of thoughts and behaviours; do not identify yourself with it, it is NOT you; your natural condition is a condition of wellbeing, inner comfort and happiness and you are going to feel that again. And also it is SO Important that you stop beating yourself up! Please, please nike air max 2015 sale , please forgive yourself! If you beat yourself up for the way you are, or the way you have behaved, the only result you obtain is to feel worse and to strengthen those negative patterns that create anxiety. In fact, how about asking yourself, 'How can I feel good about myself, if I keep beating myself up and thus feeling bad?' And so, if you behave in a way you do not like, take responsibility for it, learn from it, apologize if you need to, and forgive yourself. Then there might be the pressure from society that, if you want to be accepted cheap nike air max 90 , you need to be, or behave in, a certain way. I have worked with clients who came to coaching as they arrived at some point in their lives, hit some pain and realised that what they had followed as happiness was simply an illusion. One said, 'I have followed the trends in society for my entire life and I have lost myself,' and another said, 'what I thought was bringing me happiness has instead created a hole within me, and I feel I have wasted my life'. So, as you can see, following the trends does not quite work. So ask yourself, 'Do I prefer to be accepted or to be happy?' I know you are going to tell me, 'But I am afraid of what people think nike air max 90 ireland , and this is what causes my social anxiety'. I know, but you can stop those thoughts that create that anxious feeling inside you and you can decide what you are going to think about people and about yourself. How about if you thought that what other people think is simply their business, not yours? Would you feel relieved? And I know you are thinking. 'But I cannot stop those thoughts that create anxiety, it seems they have more power than me'. I know, but this is only a conditioning of society. Let me ask you a question: Who is the master of your mind? Who controls your thoughts? You do. Start by simply saying: 'Stop' to the unwanted thoughts, and then 'This is what I want to think, NOW'. And you will see that you will, little by little, feel more in control. Then to overcome social anxiety you need to be yourself and the person you really are- your soul- and love that. You can be whoever you want to be, free from the conditioning of the society and from the conditioning you have experienced in your past. As Henry Kissinger said, 'Accept everything about yourself - I mean everything. You are you and that is the beginning and the end - no apologies, no regrets.' Then you need to develop a relationship with yourself and make that relationship THE MOST IMPORTANT in your life. 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For this you need to establish some criteria that support the relationship with yourself; i.e. if something happens, ask yourself: -is this good for me? -is this right for me? -does this make me happy? And so you can choose. And please, please, please treat yourself well. You are the most precious thing you have got nike juvenate ireland , and I mean extremely precious.

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